Friends - Are your conversations getting non-cooperation?? OR resulting into misunderstandings?? - Getting Undesired outcomes from your conversations??
How to achieve your conversation partner to cooperate with you and to reduce possible misunderstandings??
It is simple friends - click below to read on...
Start your conversations by explaining your purpose in brief and then inviting your conversation partner to join you in the conversation you want to have.
“Hi, Mohan. I need to ask for your help on my project. Got a minute to talk about it?”
“Uh...Santosh, do you have a minute? I’d like to talk to you about... Is that OK?”
“Well, sit down for a minute and let me tell you what happened...”
“Hello there, Mr. Sharma. Say, uh...I’m not completely comfortable about this project. Can we talk about it for a few minutes?”
“Hi, Jerry, this is Tom. How ya doin’? I want to talk to you about Ram. He’s in jail again. Is this a good time to talk?”
Notice that in each of the examples there are two parts.
First, The explanation of intent, which conveys what the you wants to talk about, and some rationale for why and Second part involves asking for consent from the other person.
When we do above we help our conversations along in four important ways:
1- We give our listeners a chance to agree or decline the offer of a specific conversation. A person who has agreed to participate will participate more fully. - Openness
“Uh...Santosh, do you have a minute? I’d like to talk to you about... Is that OK?”
“Well, sit down for a minute and let me tell you what happened...”
“Hello there, Mr. Sharma. Say, uh...I’m not completely comfortable about this project. Can we talk about it for a few minutes?”
“Hi, Jerry, this is Tom. How ya doin’? I want to talk to you about Ram. He’s in jail again. Is this a good time to talk?”
Notice that in each of the examples there are two parts.
First, The explanation of intent, which conveys what the you wants to talk about, and some rationale for why and Second part involves asking for consent from the other person.
When we do above we help our conversations along in four important ways:
1- We give our listeners a chance to agree or decline the offer of a specific conversation. A person who has agreed to participate will participate more fully. - Openness
2- We help our listeners to understand the “big picture,” the overall goal of the
conversation-to-come. - Objective
conversation-to-come. - Objective
3- We allow our listeners to get ready for what is coming, especially if the topic is emotionally charged. - What they should expect from the conversation?
4- We help our listeners understand the role that we want them to play in the conversation. - What do you expected from the conversation?
Practicing above will convert non-cooperation or misunderstanding - into specific involved result-oriented positive conversations.
