Expiry Date...

Friends - Someone once told me that everyone, and everything, have an expiration date on them. Food, cars, business partnerships, friendships, relationships and us. 


I believe - most of the things (including our lives) has expiry date!!! and... few things don't


Our Health - Life - Dreams - Success - Failure - Hope - most of the relationships - illness - happiness - sadness - most of this has a expiry date.


Our Knowledge - experience - few relationships - have no expiry date.


If we don't pay attention and don't make consistent incremental effort to increase these things - they will soon have a expiry date.  


Lets value these few things that don't have a expiry date - while they don't have a expiry date.


Lets live every moment - lets grow every moment - lets value every moment - with courage, learning attitude & care. 


And few things have to expire - so let them.


Remember - every "NO" means "New Opportunity" - when one door is closed - five are already open - you just have to choose and go for it


God always has a better way for you...


Friends - as everything comes to an end - so does this daily blog - due to my increased responsibilities i am forced to close this daily blog :( 


Thanks - It was a great learning journey with you. 


Have only one thing to say at the end.... (a punch line from a popular cigratte brand - my favorite when i used to smoke - now of course i havent touched a cigratte for past 7 years)


"Live life KING size"


**I am converting this blog into a ebook - once done will post it here

Habits leading to Excellence...

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
Let's see 10 habits of excellence:

1. Give everything you’ve got to everything you do.You’ve got to be smart to be number one in any business. But more importantly, you’ve got to play with your heart, with every fiber of your body.

2. Know your business.
If you know your business you will know what it takes to excel.

3. Be enthusiastic.
Nothing great is achieved without enthusiasm.

4. Be the first to act intelligently.
Don’t just think intelligently, act upon it. Knowledge is only potential power, it’s what you do with that knowledge that makes it powerful and life changing.

5. Earn a reputation for reliability.
This will set you apart from the armies who simply “show up”. Show up early and demonstrate a faithful character. Faithfulness is a rare quality these days but it is standard equipment in the commitment to excellence.

6. Work smarter not harder.
Learn how to work smart, know when to load up and go for it and when to limit your labor and enjoy the journey. At the same time, do not confuse resting with laziness.

7. Take time to retool.
Don’t become too busy to listen to your life and reassess situations.

8. Under promise and over deliver.
“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Don’t bother just to be better than your contemporaries and your predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”

9. Demonstrate a positive attitude.
In a world of negative, if you want to be noticed, be positive.

10. Remember there is no traffic jam on the extra mile.
When everyone else around you is taking the shortcut to success, stay the extra mile. The road may be long and hard, but there is no crowd and the rewards are limitless.

“Most people never grow beyond their circumstances because they fail to lift their heads high enough to seize opportunities; thus killing off ambition. This is why the masses of humanity are “stuck in a rut”. They accept their routine, a habit that finally becomes so strong they cease to ever throw it off. Successful people control their circumstances while others let their circumstances control them.”

Going Beyond...

A German once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making an idol of God. Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor, "Do you need two statues of the same idol?" "No," said the sculptor without looking up, "We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage." The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage. "Where is the damage?" he asked. "There is a scratch on the nose of the idol." said the sculptor, still busy with his work. "Where are you going to install the idol?"

The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high. "If the idol is that far, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?" the gentleman asked. The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said, "I will know it."

The desire to excel is exclusive of the fact whether someone else appreciates it or not.

"Excellence" is a drive from inside, not outside. 

Excellence is not for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction and efficiency...

Here is my understanding of Excellence....

Excellence is a "Personal Commitment" a "Personal Quality Statement" to yourself...


to incrementally "Going Beyond" the set standards, the expectations...

and doing the "Best Possible" in the "Given Conditions"...

Small Steps...

Big Results!!!


Below is a sure-shot way of getting results and moving ahead in whatever you do...

1. Divide and rule

Divide the action plan into small measurable action steps. Think of what you desire to achieve and what are the small action steps you could do regularly, which would lead to the result in mind.

2. Make it a Habit

When you do something regularly and often, it can become a habit. Good habits are amazing things, as we don't need to apply discipline anymore and that is when you become a master of what you do because all the doing and actions are coming from the subconscious mind.

3. Have faith

It is easy to stop, when you don't see results. When you have faith and strong belief – it will give you amazing power to keep going.

4. Keep the BIG picture in your mind

Keep the end result in your mind's eye when you do the small action step. It is important as it will give you motivation.

5. Don't count 

It is the same as you don't count how much food you are going to consume over a year. It will make you sick!!! So you just take one step at the time be present as much as you can be whilst you doing it.

6. Keep momentum. 

When you will start seeing or feeling evidence of the positive outcome, don't stop there – just keep going. People think that they are going to take a break from the momentum they've built up….the problem is, it is actually hard to start again once you loose it.

7. Keep doing it.

Even when they only seam small it is not true. Small action steps taken regularly over the time are what makes the world go around.

Friends - In my life I've practiced a lot of taking small action steps, I think one of the results you can even read now in my blog, i started this 2 years back, and now I write this everyday without fail at 3AM every morning. Believe me it is not easy. And I hope what i write makes sense to someone everyday. I started by writing small reads everyday in my emails and then shifted to a daily blog - now that is a commitment and it requires loads of thinking, time and discipline, however it built up momentum, and now it is my habit, hobby and meditation. It gradually lead me to enjoyment of writing, and so I just kept writing more and more. It required discipline to start with, but it evolved into mastery and joy without an effort. Now I have started writing 3 books!!!  

If I can do it - So can you. what ever small step you take – IT COUNTS, when you focus and do it regularly it evolves, expands into something big and meaningful….

There might be something small you could do for yourself, which would make a huge difference in your life. Look for it, don't make it small in your mind!!! Are there any small action steps you could take today, which could over time make significant difference to your life and the life of others? Please just make it count – I'm sure you can find something….

Discipline = Loss of Freedom???

You have BIG Dreams - BIG Goals - and a BIG Action plan - Still nowhere near your dreams??? Why is it happening? Why do we feel that we are not able to achieve what we desire and if we achieve, the results don't last for long.

The reasons are quite simple!

> We give up to early, we never start or we think that we have to do something 'Very Big' and don't have means or power to do it.
> We don't see instant results.
> We are not willing to apply discipline to take small actions regularly. Human laziness
> We loose faith too quickly, as we don't see or feel the results instantly. And faith is believing in something, which has not manifested yet.
> We don't believe that small action steps can lead to something big.

The solution is also very simple...

SMALL Disciplined Determined Consistent Action steps lead to EFFORTLESS, enjoyable, unimaginable ACHIEVEMENTS

It is so simple….Just apply discipline with faith and do small actions regularly, which are going to lead to the desired outcome!

The discipline together with faith is the key to your success. 

Discipline is a gateway to your freedom, success, happiness…

When you are able to apply discipline to yourself and take small actions towards your desire to be fulfilled – it is priceless!

You need discipline to keep you going, and so as the small action steps taken will not give you instant results it is very tempting to stop. When you have faith in your desire it will drive you to be persistent and keep going.

"Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments."

Lights, Camera, ?????

ACTION !!!
Friends - when the camera starts rolling - you can do only one thing - ACT and GIVE your BEST PERFORMANCE.

ACTION is Everything - ACTION speaks louder then WORDS - lounder then anything in fact

Once you set your GOALS and make a ACTION plan - you can only ACT and GIVE your BEST. Few tips below:

Take baby steps. 

Break down goals into bite sized pieces that are measurable ACTION steps. Make sub-goals and milestones and baby ACTION plan to achieve that.

Celebrate EACH little achievement. It helps you have something to look forward to and encourages you to keep going towards acting out your dreams.

If there is a will there is a way.

My father has always told me this and it is 100% true. He always tells me - Ratnesh, if you want to do something - I know you will do it - nothing can stop you.

Whatever you dream & plan - if you WANT to achieve it - then you will ACT. The only thing holding you back is the actions to get to the point of fulfilling that dream, so if you map out the actions you CAN achieve the dream.

Actions generate response exponentially.

The more I act the easier the actions get and the more productive they seem to be. So it would seem that actions multiply and compound the more you practice doing vs. just thinking about it.

Failure is future Success.

It is much better to have acted and failed than to never have acted at all. I have failed at things a good number of times in my young life and some people would say that if I hadn’t taken so many leaps I wouldn’t have failed so much, this is true, but I also wouldn’t have succeeded ever, at all.

Failure only makes the success at the end of the road that much sweeter!

Always bite off more than you can chew. 

Every great success comes after by biting off more than one thinks he can chew. The reason behind jumping off the deep end is simple, when you HAVE to make it work 9 times out of 10 you will. It is just how the world works.

The problem is all too often people never try and go in over their head because they’ve heard a million warnings on how that is a bad idea, not realizing that all success – at some level – has been born out of taking a plunge into uncharted waters… just look at Columbus.

Hopefully this has inspired you to take a look at your life and really go grab whatever it is you want the most by the horns. Let me end this note with one more interesting but deep fact:

Action cures fear.

Mom - I want to be a Doctor :)

Friends imagine your 10 year old kid comes to you and says - "Mom I want to be a Doctor"

What would you tell the kid???

"OK, well just sit there and in 15 years I am sure it’ll happen!!! Lets wait for it to happen" 

OR

"Great!!! BUT you have to do loads of hardwork and focused studies for that!!! Lets plan it"

Your kid has a BIG goal - how will you plan it??? what would the steps be for your kid to reach that goal by age 25?? what would be the action points for both you and your kid??? 

Friends - do we go after our dreams with the same approach as you would recommend for your kid???

Normally - Instead of laying down a strategic action plan people would prefer to complain, blame and make excuses on why they could never achieve their dreams job - dream partner - dream house - dream car....

It is as simple as setting your goals up, on paper and then tracking the simple steps that will get you there. The smaller the steps the better, this makes it easier to follow through with. Then as you hit each little goal you cross it off and feel the warmth of accomplishment wash over them. 

Hopefully in few months you’ll become an action taker who always looks for the steps to a goal instead of just desiring that goal to happen organically.

Friends - BIG dreams alone are not enough - there is no law of attraction without law of planned focused on-time action.

Without action dreams are just that, dreams, they come to you in a flash and dissipate with the morning light. 

Remember - 99% dreams just remain dreams - because people focus on ‘living your dreams’ and wait for a "miracle" or some "law of attraction" to happen.

Let your DREAMS not remain DREAMS - make them a REALITY with loads of planned focused and on-time measurable action!!!

SAME recipe DIFFERENT dish ???

Will the same recipe yield a different dish???


NO - a BIG NO


the SAME recipe can NEVER produce DIFFERENT results


Friends the same way - unless you CHANGE what you did in 2011 - how will you get different results in 2012???


Let CHANGE, ACTION & FOCUS be the BIG thing in 2012


CHANGE in your thinking - living - talking - behavior - goals


Create a specific time-bound implementable ACTION plan and then FOCUS on give full ATTENTION to your ACTION plan and your new GOALS


The power of Focused attention is tremendous and incomparable - it can do miracles.


Leave everything that is not relevant and disturbs your focus - be it a job, friend, TV, Mobile, Internet, Movies, Gossip, EGO, Irrelevant talks, etc.


Readiness for CHANGE + Solid ACTION PLAN + full FOCUS and ATTENTION = MIRACLES in 2012


Plan and Prepare yourself for a BIG CHANGE and a BIG LEAP in 2012.

2012 - One BIG Leap - One BIG Change...

Friends - 2012 will be a milestone year in everyone's life. It is a magical year - A year of BIG Success - a Giant Leap for the one who dares to make a BIG change backed with unmatched Focus, Commitment & Passion.

Lets make 2012 a BIG year for all of us - Lets push it hard - Lets change the game - Lets take a giant leap!!


Mother Nature wants us to all let go of our 2011 ballast, to plan ahead for 2012 and to prepare to change.

Lets choose one BIG change - Streamline, Focus & take a BIG LEAP!!

Lets drive this change with unmatched passion and will power. 

Let their be tremendous passion about that one BIG CHANGE - and find a way to make a difference. Lets work day and night and weekends and more to achieve this one BIG CHANGE.

Lets turn the tide with sheer Focus, Commitment and Determination. 

Friends - we all can change our lives if we really want to. Somethings more and sometimes less change is possible and needed to make a difference.

So what is your that One BIG LEAP - One BIG CHANGE??? to make a difference in 2012?

Life moves on...

Friends 

...2011 is coming to an end...
...2012 is coming to life...


Friends it is so sad when something ends (even happy endings are sad - afterall it is an end)...  


but as they say Life moves on... and Life moves on pretty fast actually...


Like a dawn - The next moment is suddenly full of - sunlight from everywhere.. fresh & greater: goals.. challenges.. learnings.. opportunities.. friends...


What counts at the end is whether - in the every moment that you have lived you have....
- acted as cowards or as heors
- marched ahead with pride
- grown with the experience
- helped others grow 
- given some meaning & value
- made some difference
- enjoyed & lived the journey to the fullest

Every new dawn - every new morning is an incredible sight and an equally amazing metaphor for life. My life. And your life too – if you want it to be. 

Each day can (and does) begin with a magical opportunity for new adventure, new insights, new beginnings, new opportunities…. life really is what you make it.


each day – EVERY SINGLE MORNING – when I wake up, I say “Thanks!” to my parents and god...  for being so generous with me... 


...and I thank with a full heart for the opportunity that I get to awake with yet another breath and have the opportunity to experience yet another day: new decisions, new challenges to overcome and grow, new friends and even sometimes new ‘family’...


My GRATITUDE for life is greater than it’s EVER been, and I feel abundantly blessed each and every day for what I have created in my life.

Lets welcome, enjoy & live the journey of new "Life" every day... every moment... 

Thanks 2011

Welcome 2012 :)

KARMA-SUTRA-5 & LAST

Friends - we have seen what are the first 9 laws of KARMA:

Law One: As you sow, so shall you reap. 

Law Two: You attract what you are, not what you want. 

Law Three: What you resist, persists for you. 

Law Four: Wherever you go, there you are. 

Law Five: Whenever there is something wrong, there is something wrong in me. 

Law Six: Whatever you do may be insignificant, but it is still important that you do it. 

Law Seven: You can't think of two things at the same time. 

Law Eight: If you believe something to be true, then sometime in life you must demonstrate that truth. 

Law Nine: You can't go home again, but you must try. 

today lets see the last 3...

Law Ten: The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

This is the "Law of Change." History will continue to repeat itself; the cycle of rebirths will not end; until we learn to make the necessary changes that will liberate us. Thus, it is not the change that occurs all around us that is critical – in point of fact, there may be great change all around us, yet still nothing is altered with respect to our karma – rather, it is the change that occurs within us that is critical, and will ultimately make the difference in realizing our ultimate destiny.

Law Eleven: When you focus on your life, good things happen. 

This is known as the "Law of Patience and Reward." Anything that is good, anything that is worth having and of lasting value, requires patient, persistent effort. It also requires the proper perspective on one's life, and right priorities. Those who focus only on the rewards, may come up lacking; those, however, who focus on living their lives according to spiritual priorities, will experience the rewards of such living in due time. Cause and Effect. Focus on your life, and you will be rewarded; focus only on the rewards, and you may end up losing life itself.

Law Twelve: What you put in, you get back. 

This is the "Law of Value and Upliftment;" also known as the "Law of Significance and Inspiration." Your contribution is of worth, and it will bring about a result. If you contribute something positive, you may expect a positive return; contribute something negative, and what comes back to you may not be as pleasant. Cause and Effect. Karma! Reciprocity! What you put in, you get back! One's contribution to something will either uplift it or decrease it, depending on the nature of the contribution.

and now all 12 laws of KARMA:

Law One: As you sow, so shall you reap. 

Law Two: You attract what you are, not what you want. 

Law Three: What you resist, persists for you. 

Law Four: Wherever you go, there you are. 

Law Five: Whenever there is something wrong, there is something wrong in me. 

Law Six: Whatever you do may be insignificant, but it is still important that you do it. 

Law Seven: You can't think of two things at the same time. 

Law Eight: If you believe something to be true, then sometime in life you must demonstrate that truth. 

Law Nine: You can't go home again, but you must try. 

Law Ten: The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

Law Eleven: When you focus on your life, good things happen. 

Law Twelve: What you put in, you get back. 

KARMA-SUTRA-4

Friends - we have seen what are the first 6 laws of KARMA:

Law One: As you sow, so shall you reap.
Law Two: You attract what you are, not what you want.
Law Three: What you resist, persists for you.

Law Four: Wherever you go, there you are.
Law Five: Whenever there is something wrong, there is something wrong in me.

Law Six: Whatever you do may be insignificant, but it is still important that you do it.

lets see next 3 laws...

Law Seven:You can't think of two things at the same time. 

This is the "Law of Focus." Some also refer to it as the "Law of Direction and Motives." We must possess a singleness of purpose; a spiritual focus; if we would achieve enlightenment. We must set our minds on things above, and not try to be "double-minded." Hidden agendas and motives are not conducive to spiritual liberation. We must be pure of thought and intent.

Law Eight: If you believe something to be true, then sometime in life you must demonstrate that truth.

This is the "Law of Willingness." In other words, if we profess belief in something, then we must be willing to personally invest ourselves in sacrificial service to that to which we affirm belief or faith. A life lived apart from visible demonstration before others of our convictions is a LIE. Practice what you preach.

Law Nine: You can't go home again, but you must try. 

This is the "Law of Here and Now." One cannot relive the past, although one can learn from it. Thus, we must "revisit" the past for the purpose of learning, but we must never seek to "return" there for the purpose of dwelling in it. The "what IS" will always suffer if we are fixated in the "what WAS," and we will never move forward into the "what CAN BE." If one chooses to "live in the past," one forfeits the future!

last set tomorrow :)

KARMA-SUTRA-3

Friends - last week we saw what is KARMA - and what re the first 3 laws of KARMA:

Law One: As you sow, so shall you reap.
Law Two: You attract what you are, not what you want.
Law Three: What you resist, persists for you.

Now today lets see next 3 laws...

Law Four: Wherever you go, there you are.

This is known as the "Law of Growth." True change must begin with yourself. It is pointless to try to escape from a situation - as wherever you go, YOU will still be there … and with all the same dysfunctions. We try to change everything and everyone around us; but unless and until we change ourselves - nothing will actually change. Self-change is the source of genuine growth toward enlightenment and fulfillment. It is easy to change our outward circumstances in the hope of finding greater peace and joy, but the reality is that genuine peace and joy come when we ourselves are transformed from inside.

Law Five: Whenever there is something wrong, there is something wrong in me.

This is the "Law of Responsibility;" also known as the "Law of Mirrors." Simply stated, we must take full responsibility for our lives and outcomes (both the good and the bad). It is easy to blame others when things go wrong, or not to our expectations, but to determine where the real blame lies may require us to look intently into a mirror. There stands the one responsible! Are we part of the problem, or part of the solution? The answer may well lie in where we place the blame for the former.

Law Six: Whatever you do may be insignificant, but it is still important that you do it.

This is the "Law of Synchronicity;" also known as the "Law of Ultimate Connection." Everything in the universe is perceived to be connected, thus there is no action performed that is truly insignificant. What you and I might perceive as inconsequential, may actually, in the grander scheme of things, prove to be extremely consequential. Thus, we must learn personal discipline and humility, and fulfill our individual tasks in life with a sense of purpose and even pride. We each matter; no one is insignificant.

continued...

KARMA-SUTRA-2

Friends yesterday we have read about what is KARMA...

KARMA is the root cause of all the  sufferings or happiness - fortune or misfortune.

Please do not blame any one for your fortune / misfortune - you are the only one who is responsible for what you are and what you have today. And you are writing your future with your today's KARMA.

Remember KARMA is above all - no mantra - no tantra - not even God can make any changes.

So count your GOOD KARMAS and BAD KARMAS everyday - STOP - THINK and Then - speak or take action or behave with anyone.

Today - lets read about the basic laws of KARMA:

Law One: As you sow, so shall you reap 

This first law is better known as "The Great Law." or the "Law of Cause and Effect." It means that you will get what you have done to others - in thought, words & action. We reap what we sowed.

Law Two: You attract what you are, not what you want. 

This is also known as the "Law of Creation." You will attract what you think - speak and act. If you think that people around you are dishonest - you will get dishonesty. If your focus in life is on evil, you will most likely attract evil persons as companions and find yourself within evil scenarios more often than not. So start becoming (thinking, speaking & acting) what you want from the universe. We create both our circumstances and our destiny by who we choose to be in our journey through life.


Law Three: What you resist, persists for you. 

This is the "Law of Humility." One can learn a great deal about who someone is inside simply by observing those things and those persons to which or to whom he objects. If one refuses to embrace the poor, this speaks volumes about the condition of his heart, and that heart condition persists as long as he continues to resist acceptance of and association with and assistance to the poor of this world. The path to enlightenment and liberation, is the path of humility! If everyone who differs with us on some issue is viewed as "the enemy," then we are in a persistent state of enmity because of those whom we wrongfully resist. This is not the pathway to higher planes of existence.

more on monday...

KARMA-SUTRA :)

Friends - you must have heard about KARMA so many times... 

Let me share my understanding of KARMA with you...

KARMA simply means quality of intention or moral behind any action / doing.


Every time a person acts there is some quality of intention at the base of the mind and it is that quality rather than the outward appearance of the action that determines the effect. If one appears to be kind but acts with greed, anger or hatred, then the fruit of those actions will bear testimony to the fundamental intention that lay behind them and will be a cause for future unhappiness.

KARMA is your true intention/motive behind your every action, word and reaction - towards others.

Many people have a hard time accepting that they’ve created problems or unhappiness in their lives and argue that they were victims of circumstance or had no other choice. However, everything that’s happening is a result of previous decisions, even if we made them unconsciously. 

Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us. If what we want is happiness, peace, friendship, love…Then we should BE happy, peaceful, loving and a friend to others. Negative energy sent out to others will come back to you 10 fold. 

Everything has its implications; every thought, word, and deed has an effect. Everything, absolutely everything we think, say, or do makes a difference.


Every moment you can change your future.


So - do to others - what you want to be done to yourself.

Ask before every thought, word or action - “What can you do to bring happiness and fulfillment to me and everyone affected by my choice?”

KARMA gives YOU complete freedom, power and control on your FUTURE.

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Dreaming BIG is not enough :(

If you have to dream - have BIG dreams
Dreaming is the biggest gift god has given us
Even sky is not the limit
When you dream - the whole universe will conspire to help you achieve your dreams

Friends - there is so much pressure on every individual to have BIG BIG dreams - that now dreaming BIG has become a full-time job for many people and there are another set of people who believe that they have to only dream - rest will happen automatically...

What do you do after dreaming???

Many people forget that dreaming is not enough - unattended impractical dreams are the key to most of the unhappiness & frustration in life. A dream is only the start point.

Life begins with a Dream

A dream is like a child or a seed. Making a dream come true is like parenting - you have to choose the right seed - have a growth & action plan - commit yourself to it - nourish & nurture it - guide its growth & learning - take care of it - not let it fall ill - not let it fall dead - protect it - build a solid foundation with values - do everything that is required to let it grow into a tall big tree with juicy fruits - and then it will give you fruits....

Dream is a responsibility

The bigger the dream bigger the responsibility. You do not have any right to have a dream if you cannot take care of the dream - if you cannot parent a dream.

Dream is a commitment

If you cannot take positive incremental action and movement towards your dream in every 15 days - then you should scrap that dream - or start making more effort.

Unreasonable - Impractical - Unattended Dreams

Friends - i would say think as many and as big a child / tree that you can take care of - don't overburdeon yourself with what you cannot handle or don't want to handle.  Unattended dreams are like malnutrition-ed and handicap child - i am sure you don't want to create one as a parent...

A Good parent / farmer - always gets the best fruits

In first place parenting itself makes a person matured and seasoned - good parenting itself is a dream come true - and you deserve the fruits also...

Be Ambitious - Be a BIG Dreamer - Be a bigger DOER


Be a Good Parent / Farmer to your dreams
As you sow - so shall you reap

Listening... Listening... Listening...

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Few women and most of the men are not good listeners - but it is not their fault - They lose it because of their long habit of striving in life, of self-assertion. More forceful the person is, the less they can listen as they grow older. And that is why most of the women (and few men) in general are more fun, more restful and inspiriting.

Inability to listen - affects all relationships - and when two people disagree they begin to react negatively and aggressively, instead of listening and becoming quieter and more comprehending. And this is the cause of one of the saddest things in the world...

Loneliness & boredom - these are death of any relationship.

So what is the solution??? 

Pay attention, listen positively and love people without a reason - even if someone is arrogant, bad-tempered, ill-behaved. 

True listeners know that if you are bad-tempered it does not mean that you are always so. They don't accept you just when you are nice; they accept all of you.

Remember - listening, not talking, is the gifted and great role, the tougher & imaginative role. 

That's the reason we trust our friends, parents and God so much - they always listen actively and positively. 

And the true listener is much more beloved, magnetic than the talker, and he is more effective and learns more and does more good. And so try listening. Listen to your spouse, your husband, your father, your mother, your children, your friends; your colleagues; to those who love you and those who don't, to those who bore you, to your enemies. 

Listening always works small or big miracles.

What do you expect after a Joke???

How do you feel when people do not listen and laugh at your joke??? and what happens after that??? - The Joke dies.. you feel demotivated (insulted sometimes)...

and what happens when everyone listens & laughs on your joke??? - You are fully charged.... you feel great... you feel happy...

Think - whom do you go for when you need an advice??? when you need a support??? or when you need to share something??? - people who listen to what we want to say. 

When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.

Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. That is the principle of it. 

It makes people creative, innovative, happy and free when they are listened to. 

Friends - listening is a great and powerful thing. And how we don't listen to our family, friends, colleagues, teachers or bosses!!!! IN fact - we hardly listen to our heart also :(

Listening is a magnetic and strange - super creative force. 

We all are creative. It is when people really listen to us, with quiet, fascinated attention, your creativeness  begins to work, to accelerate and produce in the most surprising way.

When people listen - creativity and productivity flows...

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A life changing prayer...

Friends a personal commitment to Excellence...
(If you read this loudly even once a week - your life will change)


I am the sum total of the genetic endowment 

with which I came into the world, and of all the experiences which have made up my life. 

Some of them have been good, some bad, 

but all of them have been mine. 

What I currently am is what I deserve to be. 

My life, my reputation, my influence 

is the mirror of the choices I have made. 

If I am not everything I can be, it is because 

I haven’t chosen to be more. 

I am determined not to live in my past, 

which I cannot change, 

or to waste time waiting for the future, 

which I cannot guarantee, 

but to live in the emerging reality of the NOW, 

which is all I have. 

I cannot do everything, but I can do some things. 

I certainly cannot do everything well, 

but I can do some things well. 

I cannot guarantee I will win, 

but I can promise I will not allow losing to become a habit, and if I fail, it will not be a failure of nerve. 

So I will stand tall, feel deeply, think large, and strive mightily, 

remembering what I accomplish probably 

won’t change the course of human history, 

but what I attempt will 

create the course of my personal history. 

Toward making this declaration a reality, 

I hereby commit myself.

Don't be Messy - Be Classy!!!

Being classy is NOT about being stuck up, but more so about having a simply unique style that will never be forgotten. To be classy is to have respect; respect for others, respect for elders and most of all respect for yourself.

Take care to be polite to others and to reflect a genuine interest in them. Be confident in yourself, dress how you want and act accordingly.

Step 1 > Treat others the way you would want to be treated. 

Step 2 > Choose your battles, choose your friends. 

Step 3 > Choose your words. 

Step 4 > Do not insult, gossip, or slander. 

Step 5 > Be independent. 

Step 6 > Break the stereotype shackles. 

Step 7 > Be assertive. 

Step 8 > Define yourself with a clean and elegant look. 

Step 9 > Avoid getting caught up in trends. 

Step 10 > Know when to ask for help, but avoid desperate behavior. 

Step 11 > Seek wisdom. 

Step 12 > Be open to personal development. 

Step 13> Be knowledgeable and aware. 

It is wise to become politically, culturally, and religiously aware. Even the most basic knowledge can save a person from embarrassment and awkwardness. If you know in advance that you will be spending time with someone of an unfamiliar background, it is a good idea to do more in-depth research to avoid embarrassing faux pas. Make daily newspaper headlines, google & wikipedia your best friend and advisors. 

Step 14> Be responsible. 

Classy people leave their surroundings in a condition at least as good as they found them. Unless they are in a restaurant with wait staff whose job it is to do the clearing up, classy people insist on taking care of their own trash and baggage, not expecting others to pick up after them. And when others do favors for them, while stuck-up or spoiled people assume it's only to be expected and ignore others' assistance, truly classy people are quick to notice and to express their gratitude and their appreciation.

Step 15> Be considerate. 

Truly classy people instinctively recoil at the thought of inconveniencing others, offending them, getting in other peoples' way, or in any way making nuisances of themselves. Classy people are all about minding their own business when among strangers and putting others at ease when in social situations. Truly classy people are gracious and affable to everyone, whether the CEO, the mail carrier, or the custodian. Classy people know others' names and use them when greeting people they see regularly, whether the door attendant, the security guard, or the boss' wife. Classy people treat everyone the same - with courtesy and respect.

Step 16> Be Real. 

If you have class, live in a way of which you should be proud. If you have to be phony and deceptive then you should consider why. A person of honor and integrity never needs to hide behind a facade. If you can't show your true self to the world then who will people see? Just stop pretending!

Don't be Messy - Be Classy!!!

Be a Classy Person - part 4

Friends - here's part 4 and then the last part tomorrow...

As i told you yesterday... lifetime learning comes only through practice - practice - practice and more practice....
Step 1 > Treat others the way you would want to be treated.
Step 2 > Choose your battles, choose your friends.
Step 3 > Choose your words.
Step 4 > Do not insult, gossip, or slander.
Step 5 > Be independent.
Step 6 > Break the stereotype shackles.
Step 7 > Be assertive.
Step 8 > Define yourself with a clean and elegant look.

Step 9 > Avoid getting caught up in trends. 

There is nothing wrong with enjoying fashion or buying clothing you find attractive, but it is important to stay in control.Do not become a slave to fashion, or you may be regarded as foolish, "high maintenance", and/or shallow. The clothing you wear should enhance your personality, not create or alter it. This advice can be applied to many aspects of life in which you may feel pressured to "fit in."

Step 10 > Know when to ask for help, but avoid desperate behavior. 

This is the kiss of death for the classy person. Only desperate times call for desperate measures. Take a deep breath, be strong, and move through the situation with elegance and grace. You will be the victor for it, no matter the outcome. If things get out of hand and you feel completely overwhelmed, ask for help from a close friend or family member.

Step 11 > Seek wisdom. 

As difficult as it can be to heed the advice of those more experienced than yourself, it is a necessary step at times. No matter your age or ability, allow yourself to learn from the mistakes and victories of those older or more experienced than you. You will win their favor and be available to pass on your own wisdom or advice.

Step 12 > Be open to personal development. 

Do not berate yourself, but be receptive to constructive change. In our world, change is inevitable. Be a positive and flexible part of it and show others the way as well. Face life rather than burying your head in the sand and others will know instinctively that you are someone whose opinion counts.

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Be a Classy Person - part 3

Friends - I am sure your move towards being more classy has started well. I am sure you are aware that like all thing sin life - lifetime learning comes only through practice - practice - practice and more practice....

Step 1 > Treat others the way you would want to be treated.
Step 2 > Choose your battles, choose your friends.
Step 3 > Choose your words.
Step 4 > Do not insult, gossip, or slander.

Step 5 > Be independent. 

You must be courteous, but do not bend over backwards to please others. If you do, you may find yourself being taken advantage of in the future. Limit your time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they are aware of your limits.

Step 6 > Break the stereotype shackles. 

More often than not, using labels in any way, whether to identify yourself or others shows a lack of creativity, lethargic social skills, and a lack of careful observation. Give everyone respect and the benefit of doubt.

Step 7 > Be balanced. Be assertive. 

Avoid passive-aggressive thinking; this is likely to trip you up eventually. Assertiveness demonstrates maturity, thoughtfulness, and confidence. Class requires balance, and assertiveness is a prime example of this concept.

Step 8 > Define yourself with a clean and elegant look. 

Excellent presentation is half of the battle. Wear clothing and accessories, which flatter your body and never wear anything you feel uncomfortable in. Wear a balanced smile always. 

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Be a Classy Person - part 2

Move through life with class and ease in just 16 steps. When you are done reading all four parts, you should know how to be classy, or: selfless, generous, compassionate and responsible.

Step 1 > Treat others the way you would want to be treated. 

Treating adults and children with class. Give others advance notice before cancelling dinner invitations, speak up for those who cannot stand up for themselves, call your parents to update them on yourself, check-in with friends; these are all simple gestures that demonstrate your class and authenticity. Ensure you choose friends who share your values.

Step 2 > Choose your battles, choose your friends. 

Very few battles are truly worth fighting or taking a challenge. Stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves (the elderly, children, mentally disabled, etc.) Be wary of those who appear to enjoy bickering. If someone is rude to you, either ignore him or her completely or, once you have completely calmed down and are thinking clearly, explain how you perceived his or her actions and work towards a resolution. You can also treat them with polite disdain--be polite but let them subtly know that you don't appreciate what they are doing. Never stoop to their level, and do not be hasty. Surround yourself with positive, polite people who encourage and live your classy, intelligent lifestyle.

Step 3 > Choose your words. 

The classy individual listens more than he or she speaks. Having a strong vocabulary is important, but do not use a word unless you are certain of its meaning. Use words to express yourself clearly. Importantly, do not correct others when they use improper grammar. Differences in background, family life, and education cause people to speak differently, and people often use slang for effect. More than this, it is irritating and degrading to be corrected by a know-it-all.

Step 4 > Do not insult, gossip, or slander. 

Do not waste your and others time and life. When necessary, voice your opinions appropriately and constructively. This encourages your audience to listen carefully when you speak.

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