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Few women and most of the men are not good listeners - but it is not their fault - They lose it because of their long habit of striving in life, of self-assertion. More forceful the person is, the less they can listen as they grow older. And that is why most of the women (and few men) in general are more fun, more restful and inspiriting.
Inability to listen - affects all relationships - and when two people disagree they begin to react negatively and aggressively, instead of listening and becoming quieter and more comprehending. And this is the cause of one of the saddest things in the world...
Loneliness & boredom - these are death of any relationship.
So what is the solution???
Pay attention, listen positively and love people without a reason - even if someone is arrogant, bad-tempered, ill-behaved.
True listeners know that if you are bad-tempered it does not mean that you are always so. They don't accept you just when you are nice; they accept all of you.
Remember - listening, not talking, is the gifted and great role, the tougher & imaginative role.
That's the reason we trust our friends, parents and God so much - they always listen actively and positively.
And the true listener is much more beloved, magnetic than the talker, and he is more effective and learns more and does more good. And so try listening. Listen to your spouse, your husband, your father, your mother, your children, your friends; your colleagues; to those who love you and those who don't, to those who bore you, to your enemies.
Listening always works small or big miracles.
