Friends - my guruji has given me one mantra to recognize the people (and yourself):
"Don't go with what people say - Go with what people DO"
Action - speaks louder then words. Let your action create your future >> Take action. Get it done.
"Having once decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense."
Thomas A. Bennett
"Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment."
Thomas Carlyle
"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
Dale Carnegie
The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Working on something and getting it done. Sitting and thinking about it will just make you feel worse. Simple. But not always easy to do. To make it a bit easier, here are a three of my favorite ways to make it easier to take action:
Be present.
This will help you snap out of over thinking and just go and do whatever you want to get done. This is probably the best tip I have found so far for taking more action since it puts you in a state where you feel little emotional resistance to the work you'll do. And it puts you in state where the right actions often just seem to flow out of you in a focused but relaxed way and without much effort. One of the simplest ways to connect with the present moment is just to keep your focus on your breathing for a minute or two.
Lighten up.
One way to dissuade yourself from taking action is to take whatever you are about to do too seriously. That makes it feel too big, too difficult and too scary. If you on the other hand relax a bit and lighten up you often realize that those problems and negative feelings are just something you are creating in your own mind. With a lighter state of mind your tasks seems lighter and become easier to get started with.
Really, really want it.
Then taking action isn't something you have to force. Taking action becomes a very natural thing. It's something you can't wait to do.
So Friends - Make your ACTION your strength and keep observing other people's ACTION to understand them... (don't go by words)
